Re: civil discussion on fedora lists

Przemek Klosowski <przemek.klosowski@xxxxxxxx> · Mon, 20 Oct 2014 16:38:23 -0400



    On 10/18/2014 07:14 AM, Reindl Harald
      wrote:

    
      Am 18.10.2014 um 09:10 schrieb Miroslav Suchy:
      

      On 10/17/2014 08:31 PM, Matthew Miller
        wrote:
        

        You can say something like "I'm not sure
          I understand the point you are
          

          making. Particularly, I don't see how __________ follows. Can
          you explain
          

          that in more depth?"
          

          And conversely, if you feel like your position isn't being
          listened
          to, try
          

          "I guess I'm not making myself very clear. Let me try to
          restate.... Does
          

          this make more sense?"
          

        Ha Ha. I heard exactly that from my English teacher several
        weeks ago.
        

        For myself, this is cultural difference too. I would never use
        such
        

        wording in my native language. (Disclaimer: I'm not targeting
        the
        

        original thread, but disagreement in general)
        

      +1
      

      nobody i know in real life talks that way, really nobody, never
      

    Harald,

    
    I totally disagree---most people I know, including myself, often
    talk like that. Maybe 

    that's because I am married :).

    
    Another phrase that I found to be very effective at avoiding
    emotions in arguments is 

    'There's another way of looking at this'.

    
    Remember how in the old times people used to be exquisitely polite
    to each other?

    It occurred to me that the primary reason for those courtly manners
    was that everyone 

    had an enormous sword at their side. I think it's not  a bad idea to
    treat other people

    with respect equal to what you'll grant them if they were armed.

  
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