Re: Tolerance

Keith Moore <moore@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> · Tue, 16 Jul 2019 10:14:16 -0400



    On 7/16/19 9:57 AM, Rob Wilton (rwilton) wrote:

    
      Personally,
          I think that the best feedback is constructive, objective and
          preferably delivered in a kind way whenever possible. 
           

    Stated in those terms, I probably agree with you.   

      
      Sometimes it's difficult to be constructive, as when someone
      proposes an idea that seems really harmful but one cannot readily
      come up with a better alternative.   Sometimes there are no good
      solutions to a problem; sometimes any change is worse than the
      status quo.   

    
    Sometimes it's especially difficult to be objective, because we
      all naturally have different perspectives, different experiences,
      and access to different information.   Indeed one of IETF's
      strengths should be that it can incorporate a broad spectrum of
      non-objective perspectives.

    
    And there can be differing opinions as to what is "kind".  
      Someone who earnestly seeks truth or a good solution to a problem,
      can be happy to learn that he was wrong or that a better solution
      is available.  It can be unkind to withhold or disguise that
      information.

    
      I also
          don’t see that striving for feedback to be provided in this
          way conflicts with the successful functioning of IETF (either
          historically, or today).
    
    Nor I, within reason.    Though I can identify exceptions, I
      don't especially object to what you've stated. 

    
    Keith