> On Jul 4, 2019, at 3:00 PM, Ted Lemon <mellon@xxxxxxxxx> wrote: > > If I were to state a corollary to Crocker’s rule, it is that in order for any useful discourse to occur, each of us has to let go of a very specific idea. That idea, stated from my perspective, is that “Ted is usually right.” To test this rule on yourself, do not substitute “I” for “Ted.” Make it personal. Substitute in your own name. And then say “Ted is usually wrong” (but substitute your name) and see how that feels. It can be a fruitful exploratory process. I think I would say that in order for Crocker’s Rules to work, one must be at least as willing to discover that he/she is “wrong” (in some sense, including that he/she has failed to take some important case into account), as to discover that he/she is right. I would not personally recommend adopting either a “_____ is usually wrong” or “______ is usually right” mindset, because either approach seems to me to promote a kind of closed mindedness. I would say try to have an open mind, but if that’s too hard, be optimistic about yourself rather than pessimistic. It’s easier to learn and take advantage of discovery from an optimistic point of view. (I say this as one who was conditioned to pessimism and self deprecation from early childhood; it’s very hard to overcome that mindset and realize your potential.) (For myself, I am often grateful to learn something that proves me wrong, because the learning is useful; and sometimes find it awkward - almost embarrassing - to be proven right. But I don’t accept social pressure as a form of proof.) > Realizing that you were wrong is actually an incredibly good outcome, not bad at all. Certainly agree with that. Can be awkward or painful but generally good overall. Keith
