Okay, I get it. But just so the record is set straight... paying and re-shooting WAS my NEXT offer. They did NOT call me and tell me they were still unhappy. Two(that's right... 2... count them, one - two) days after picking up the photos, they went straight to the court house and took out papers on me. NOT ONCE did they say anything about not liking the fixed photos. AND the bride had called me twice in those two days for something else and NOT ONCE did she say she was not happy with the pictures. I DID NOT pursue this, THEY DID! I'm not angry here. Just trying to get my point across. I DID NOT KEEP THIS GOING. THEY DID! When I was ruled against, I quietly went to the clerk of court and asked what I had to do to appeal. I haven't done a single thing to pursue it. I'm merely gathering information and opinions. So, once more, I was not given an opportunity to offer back money. I was not given the chance to offer a re-shoot. I did not even have a clue that they were still dissatisfied. It is because of what Jesus says that I have done everything within my humble, imperfect and meager power to satisfy these people. And at the risk of sounding trite, I was ambushed! So could we all please stop the religious lectures now? Thank you! Shyrell Melara For the Quality You Deserve! Melara Family Photography http://shyrellmelara.tripod.com ----- Original Message ----- From: Chris <nimbo@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx> > > Jesus was right, "If a man forces you to go a mile, go two". > You should have paid up in the first place and offered to do the whole shoot > again - free! > Chris. > > Question: What happens to me when I die? > Response: What happens to a cat when it dies? > Answer: You throw it away. > Response and answer: You are a clever cat! > > God's Anathema > > -----Original Message----- > From: owner-photoforum@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx > [mailto:owner-photoforum@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of > mkmusic@xxxxxxxxxxxxx > Sent: 07 May 2005 06:30 > To: List for Photo/Imaging Educators - Professionals - Students > Subject: Re: Bride vs Photographer > > > > > I guess I will put in a thought or two... > > Its not always about winning. > Its not always about being right. > > Sometimes its better to let someone win > even when they are not right. > > And wash the dust off your sandals and walk away. > > Especially when it gets to the level of a psychic battle on some level. > which it seems this may have become. > Then the best strategy is always to disengage. > And to pick the shortest, least damaging route to do so. > > I remember a comment I read I think from Peace Pilgrim. > She said, when you attack your enemy, you make them stronger. > > So to disengage, is to render no further energy to the process > and allow it to evaporate. > > If she is truly disturbed, she will soon fix her negative energy > on someone else, if you stop giving her something to focus on. > > And as a friend of mine once said, > the world will bring along her match, and take care of it. > > This friend, (who is now a minister) 20 years before I ever knew him, had > been doing a lot of things in life > he wasn't supposed to. (and yes he ended up in jail) One day, decades ago, > he said a group of armed men > broke into his home, and held him up at gun point threatening him and his > whole family. Instead of fighting, > he acquiesced and negotiated. In the end, they left, and left everyone > unharmed. > He knew not to pick this battle, and that they would pick the wrong battle > sometime down the road. > A week later, he heard that the same guys were all shot to death apparently > trying the same stunt again at someone else's house. > > sorry to give such a dramatic example. but the story always stuck in my > head. > you don't have to win every battle. or pick every fight. > its not always about being right, or being stronger than someone else. > sometimes its best to just remove yourself safely and quietly from an unsafe > situation as quickly as possible, > and let the negative energy pass along somewhere else, and let them meet > their match. > > my thoughts on all of this.. > best wishes, > mark > > > > > At 09:18 PM 5/6/2005, you wrote: > > Forgive her and Forget the > issue. > > She will see the light soon > enough. > > karthik > -- _______________________________________________ NEW! Lycos Dating Search. The only place to search multiple dating sites at once. http://datingsearch.lycos.com
