On Mon, May 18, 2009 at 10:40 AM, Jonathan Roberts <jonrob@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote: > 2009/5/18 Lyos Gemini Norezel <lyos.gemininorezel@xxxxxxxxx>: >> Without vitriol and obnoxious people, some of the best ideas would be lost >> forever. And with vitriol and obnoxious people, some of the best people (and their ideas) are lost forever as well. This is a no-win situation, but thousands of years of social experience suggest to us that on balance you lose more by tolerating vitriol than by not tolerating it. > Right, but there are a million and one different ways to say something > to someone. > > You can say "Hey *******, I think you're a ******* ******, and you're > ideas are complete *********" and the chances are that person is not > going to be very responsive to whatever change you're proposing. > > Or you can say, "Hey, I really like the basic idea of what you're > working on, but think it would be better if we took it in this > direction instead, because a) .... b) ...." and then chances are that > person would be far more responsive, engage in real, constructive > dialogue, and something might actually be achieved. > > The first of these two is not constructive, and actively prevents > others from joining in and progressing the project. Exactly. Luis _______________________________________________ fedora-advisory-board mailing list fedora-advisory-board@xxxxxxxxxx http://www.redhat.com/mailman/listinfo/fedora-advisory-board
