I try to avoid DISTINCT and use GROUP BY when feasible, as well as avoiding OR condition. If you combined anon1 and anon2 with UNION ALL, and did (inner) join instead of left, or even moved all of that to EXISTS, perhaps that gives you better consistent performance. Something like this-
contacts__aggregated_1.company_id = contacts.company_id
AND contacts__aggregated_1.contact_id = contacts.id
AND contacts__aggregated_1.field_name = 'names'
WHERE contacts.company_id = '\x4c2118ad54397f271b000000'
WHERE contacts.company_id = '\x4c2118ad54397f271b000000'
AND EXISTS (
SELECT
FROM contacts_values
WHERE contacts_values.field_id = '\x000000000000000000000000'
AND contacts_values.field_name = 'facebook'
AND nimble_contact_value_normalize(nimble_skip_long_values(contacts_values.value)) = nimble_contact_value_normalize('http://www.facebook.com/jon.ferrara'))
AND contacts_values.company_id = contacts.company_id AND contacts_values.id = contacts.id
UNION ALL
FROM contacts_values
WHERE contacts_values.field_id = '\x000000000000000000000000'
AND contacts_values.field_name = 'facebook'
AND nimble_contact_value_normalize(nimble_skip_long_values(contacts_values.value)) = nimble_contact_value_normalize('http://www.facebook.com/jon.ferrara'))
AND contacts_values.company_id = contacts.company_id AND contacts_values.id = contacts.id
UNION ALL
SELECT
FROM contacts_values
WHERE contacts_values.field_id = '\x000000000000000000000000'
AND contacts_values.field_name = 'last_name'
AND nimble_contact_value_normalize(nimble_skip_long_values(contacts_values.value)) = nimble_contact_value_normalize('Ferrara')
WHERE contacts_values.field_id = '\x000000000000000000000000'
AND contacts_values.field_name = 'last_name'
AND nimble_contact_value_normalize(nimble_skip_long_values(contacts_values.value)) = nimble_contact_value_normalize('Ferrara')
)
ORDER BY contacts__aggregated_1.value ASC
LIMIT 30 OFFSET 0;
LIMIT 30 OFFSET 0;