On Mon, Jul 27, 2020 at 12:43:35PM -0400, Richard Barnes wrote: > So like I said in my very first message to this thread, if this discussion > could be had from a place of empathy for our fellow contributors here, I > think we would make a lot more progress. Empathy is an excellent guide in personal relationships, and should not be neglected in broader social contexts, and yet there is both much truth in: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hard_cases_make_bad_law and opportunity to downplay injustice. In the current context we're better off dealing with each case on its merits, than litigating overly broad prescriptions. Authors already have plenty of incentives to avoid controversial language, there's no need to explicitly enshrine specific taboos, such lists are always both too broad and too narrow. Let each document be reviewed on the merits. We'll pretty much get the same outcome, without the exclusionary over-policing. > For me where the "toxic" line is crossed is when folks start to invalidate > the experiences of others. We've seen this in other venues, notably in the > RFC series discussion. The expeperience of a single person is anecdote, it is not "invalidating" to suggest that such anecdotes need to be balanced against the potential harms of over-correcting. It is not possible to avoid all possible misunderstandings and someone taking offense. We are not denying the offense when we choose to not institute (often ultimately futile) preemptive measures. > A newcomer says "This is hard for me" or "This doesn't meet my needs" > and hears back "It's not hard" or "It meets my needs just fine". Only in a dystopia can there be uniform justice, when almost all are equally oppressed (except for those doling out said equal justice). We need to be careful to not strive for that outcome. We can expect authors to avoid inflamatory language, and to generally avoid colourful metaphors that might be misconstrued. To transgress for a moment, to make a more emphatic point, none of that requires a blacklist of verbotten words or phrases, slavishly followed by all authors, lest they be sentenced to exile for reeducation. The anecdotes presented to support the proposed policies don't look sufficient to justify a remedy, the harms of policing an explicit list of taboos look greater on balance. > Here, some folks are saying "This sort of language makes it harder for > me to participate" and some messages in this thread are saying back > "This isn't a concern". No, they're saying that the concern has not been credibly demonstrated to be sufficient to warrant the proposed remedy, and perhaps that the "harder" != "too hard", and that "too hard" is neither demonstrated nor perhaps even plausible. There is no perfect justice, only perfect tyranny. -- Viktor.